How do you meet like-minded people where you live. That's the most likely way to successfully find others in the lifestyle.

The web is a great way to become acquainted with others worldwise, but for something real (as opposed to virtual,) you need to be meeting folk to have a selection.

I was lucky, I met my girl here first, but nothing would have resulted had we not had lunch together, had she not been willing to meet me as I passed through her area. Many of my liasons started here, but all of them require(d) an in-the-flesh meeting to obtain what you want... and you'll do better at the local equivalent of a munch than you will online as most folk, pro forma, distrust online personnae.