I will always applaud those who try to satisfy their partner's need for kink... and have rarely seen a partner who is fully satisfied by it.

It's just the nature of the beast. Those who don't viscerally enjoy the activities will never/rarely provide the essence of what their partner craves. It's just another reason I support open relationships, because I also see no reason that otherwise compatible couples should break up. If you can't get what you need from your partner, discuss alternative sources.

-Oz (provider of alternatives. )