I'm glad this post came up. I'd never heard of Fetlife before & am excited to check it out. I also wanted to add that my Master & I recently began a blog where we write about our own personal BDSM journey together. It's an external privately hosted site however & not a blog through here (too much risk of loosing everything) but you can find the link to it by checking out my blog on here and then just follow the link to our external one (I don't want to post the link directly here because I'm not sure what the rules are but I was told by an admin that it was ok for me to post the link within a blog post on here). Anyways, O/our blog is not a discussion forum style like here however so if that's what your looking for then you're probably happiest just doing what your doing but your welcome to come visit & see if it's something you're interested in or not. Regardless I do hope you find what it is you're looking for & think you've already been given some great suggestions within the previous replies.