Thanks, Lisa! i read up on the feminist issues at first a lot too, more out of interest than ever identifying myself as "feminist", but i agree that it's the choice that makes the difference. i am making the choice to be happy, and imo "feminism" is about having the choice to do what it is that makes you happy, not pushing yourself into the mold society tries to tell you SHOULD make you happy (which is the mistake i made for most of my life and ended up miserable, with people trying to put me on medications to make me be happy).