Lovely post, gog.

I had some of the same issues, mostly revolving around making my feminist leanings fit with this new need to submit to a man. I should be self-sufficient, shouldn't I? I don't NEED any man to help take care of me and my kids! I shouldn't have to ask permission for anything! I am a grown, strong woman and I can do all of this by myself, tyvm!

LOL

The thing that helped me the most with all of this is knowing that I submit by my CHOICE. I choose to do the things that I do. I choose to please him. I choose to allow it to make me happier than I have ever been in my life. And because I have the ability and the power to choose, I don't lose my "strong woman / feminist" card.