HI. Best place to start is to look in your local area for a munch. These are gatherings of kinksters in a non-scene setting - i.e. a pub, restaurant, cafe etc. You meet up, chat, get to know each other, maybe make connections but you do not play and there is usually a strict dress code (no kinky stuff). There is generally an official greeter assigned to these whose job it is to make sure that new people are introduced properly into the group. Once you make those connections you can delve deeper into your local scene.