hyperthectically;
can a sub, submit to themselves? can a dominant, dominate thereself?
i know this statement sounds odd! but try and understand it.
is a brick wall stable without its cement? no.
i think the "power" holds the relationship together. with out one or the other there is nothing.
this power is revolves around love, trust, and honesty.
as mentioned earlier it "flows" through that particular relationship, bonding the two or maybe more involved.
if say, i knew one of you but you didnt know me, and i knocked on your door and said ive come to submit or dominate you. at first glance would you let me in? probably not!
but if time went by and we got to know each other well, and slowly that "power" began to circle us then maybe! this is where the outside world fails to understand the term bdsm. its a relationship built on specific "love oriented power" and thats what makes us unique.