Hi Silent,

Welcome to the Library

To answer your question, I resist the urge to manipulate the situation (I believe it's called topping from the bottom, but I am just learning myself, so forgive me if that is the incorrect term). I am just learning the value of open communication - regardless of the fact that I am the 's' in 'D/s'. I try to start a conversation and explain how I feel when X happens or does not happen. It is not as easy as it sounds!

Good luck to you in your situation, I hope this is not the last we see of you!