Sometimes people do just need to be together. There have been times when what I want more than anything in the world is companionship. The key, as with 99.99% of things, is communication.

When I'm not up for it (err... so to speak), I let my partner know that, and why I feel that way. The last thing I want her to be thinking is that I'm unhappy with her, or find her unappealing. Likewise, when she really, really doesn't feel in the mood, I want her to tell me. I want what we do to be something we share because we both want it; I get no joy out of knowing she's thinking "Oh, God, I wish he'd just hurry up..."

I want her thnking "Oh, God, this is so amazing..." Which is what I'm thinking when I'm with her

Sometimes, after a bit of a talk and some cuddles (yes, even doms can do that :P) whatever was dragging me down has been lifted. And then I am in the mood.

And while I can only speak for myself, being seduced would be a major turn-on... after all, having a woman making it clear she wants me? How much more of an ego boost could I possibly need?

Especially given the monolithic proportions of my ego already? :P