lol, Well thats like explaining how one can like a paticular food they have never eaten before.

Only the thing with bdsm is that your most likely going to find is its not just any one food...its an entirely different menu with a lot more selection than you will ever find on the vanila buffet.

You can probabely get things going in a lot of different directions if he is consenting and experiment a little with all sorts of other things.> Who knows you may find that spanking him isnt so much fun, but watching him crawl around on his knees in a pink maids outfit doing housework is just the thing to peg your own fun meter.

Or mabey having him at your beck and call to rub and kiss your feet when he isnt busy servicing your own personal needs.

Or...maby being dominant all the time just isnt your cup of tea and you and he should consider taking turns or somthing.

Like ok hon, last night was kink night,,,but tonight I want you to take me out to dinner , buy me a new pair of shoes and go home for a nice old fashioned hump on the couch before bed.

In the end, one must be realistic: if one of you is unhappy all the time becuase their needs are not being met things will simpley not work out.

Have you discussed all this with your partner?