icey, the way you describe it reminds me of a character form a movie (40 year old virgin I think) this one buddy of the main character couldn't even think about 'oral' because it's where you eliminate XD

Anyways, onto the topic.

Kissing is a lot more... intimate than anything that's outright sexual like a smack on the bum or a random boob grope. Honestly, during my highschool years when I experimented, I had no problem with having my boobs or my ass groped by friends but when it came to kissing those same friends... I tried it, I didn't like it.

Getting groped was like "whatever, it's just boobs" but it's never "whatever, it's just a kiss" Kissing is intimate in so many ways and the deeper and more strongly you feel about someone, the better the kisses are... it's like your emotions serve as rose-tinted glasses that make technically inferior kissing seem amazing... I know this because I can always think back to kisses I've had with ex's and think 'wow he was a terrible kisser' but I don't ever recall thinking 'damn this guy sucks at kissing' while it was happening.

Being kissed makes me feel submissive... whether soft and tender or rough and bruising it makes me feel owned, emotionally or otherwise, especially 'stolen kisses'. When doing the 'rape fantasy' sex I tend to go limp, disconnect, 'block it out' and go to a faraway place in my head... if Master kisses me during this time, it snaps me right back into the here and now, and I truly feel violated. My body can be taken physically but you don't touch my emotions until you kiss me.