Broken Switch

[fetishdj]

I started out as a switch, mainly because it was the best way to learn both sides of the lifestyle (and my initial intentions in getting involved were mainly academic interest) but as time went on I began to feel that I was tending more towards being submissive.

Then, about a year ago, things happened that triggered off my Dom side so now I switch again...

My theory about switches is that it is not the individual who determines if they are dominant or submissive (though we make choices to identify with one or the other, generally this is arbitary) but rather we are always assessing our submissive/Dominant nature in light of the others we associate with.

So, someone who identifies as a 'Dominant' will, more often than not, encounter people who are more submissive than they are and this reinfoces their Doiminance. Likewise with someone who identifies as 'submissive'. If a Dominant meets someome more Dominant they are likely to simply accept them as 'an equal' (or maybe as a 'better Dominant' but will not submit to them. Subs who meet someone more submissive are equally unlikely to dominate them.

Switches, however, adopt that middle ground and some people they meet will be more submissive than they are and so they act Dominant and others they meet will be more dominant than they are and so they act submissive. Basically, as a switch you are more likely to readjust your role based on the person you are with.

So, it may not be a change in you but rather a change in the people you are interacting with. If you were to meet some more submissive people, it is likely you may reassert your Dominant tendencies as I did.

[iSubmit]

Thanks for all the advice, you've given me a lot to think about. I guess it is true that I've largely been interacting with dominants the past few years.