My last post came after being called away mid-writing... and there's far more conversation since.... apologies if it seems misplaced...

Quote Originally Posted by His little one View Post
Lol, no apologies needed Seeker. I'm not 100% sure why. We had already had kids and been married for years before discovering D/s, and I don't know how you can love someone the same after watching them in the throes of humiliation. It seems like respect for the humiliated party would be impossible afterwards. Perhaps it's not really that I am afraid He won't love me anymore, as much as it is fear that He will think less of me. Not that He hasn't assured me of the opposite, but now I am alone to think and as brwneydgirl pointed out, over-analyzing is not always a good thing lol.
Perhaps I have a simple answer to that statement for you.

Think of the reverse. What ever your dominant's primary pleasure, whether it is a spanking, or whipping, hot wax, or just humiliating you... does he get hard because of it? Does he become lustful doing it to you? Is he having a good time? Do you love him any less because he likes doing it to you?

If you can love a dominant for consensually enjoying beating you, or debasing you, or tying you up, or whatever, then why wouldn't he love you more for letting him do it.