I think you did the right thing.

Those things are important to me, because they're the things I need to feel comfortable with someone. I really don't think I could go in to a D/s or BDSM relationship without knowing a fair amount about the person who's hands I'm about to put my life in. If they aren't someone I'd want to be friends with, they're certainly not someone I'd want a relationship like that with. My Dom spent a lot of time getting to know me, and letting me get to know him, before he ever laid a hand on me. He didn't push, and for that, I'm so grateful.

Please find someone who thinks you're worth taking that kind of time.