You need what we refer to as a safe call... and probably multiple calls, so that you can continue to let your contact(s) know you are safe, comfortable, and wish to continue.

(This means providing the address of the place you are staying so that if some of the above become not true, they can send help.

This also means you need a duress phrase. Something you can say that sounds like all is well, but is code for "OMG! Send the Cavalry!!"

I've used "fine" "good" and "happy" to all mean all is well, but "great" means help is needed.

Because if help is needed, you don't want him to rush off to dispose of you before help can come.

PS. I suggest you PM denuseri and get her story... while I know hundreds have had successful first meetings (my own girl's first meeting with me for example... none of the safety precautions were taken... she's fine btw,) but it only takes one psycho to ruin your day. Or one wannabe who just doesn't know what he's really doing....

You need the safe calls, you need the duress phrase.