Quote Originally Posted by Utburd View Post
my 2p from my experience...

GUILT:
New Doms often feel very very guilty about the way they wish to treat women, afterall theyve often be fed the essentials of good manners, being polite company and the how to of disney relationships.... no one tells you that sometimes a female subby wants you to tell her to get on all fours and bare her intimates while you ruler her ass and that theres a time and place where that is ok! so you may be battling guilt and considerate male manners.

Confidence feeds Confidence...
Also you have to let him Dom, confidence inspires confidence, but getting that started requires him to be able to trust you to do what he says, if you try to misinterpret, sidestep, resist, successfully free yourself, etc., youre undermining him and sending him mixed messages... and he'll be thinking: she told me she wants commands so Im giving and shes avoiding them... does she not really want them? is she just doing this for me? back to guilt and manners.
Wow... i have been stabbed in the heart by this post. i just posted about 30 min ago a question about me feeling bad that i want more from Master... that He seems too nice and not wanting to hurt me and not trusting me when i say "it's OK!" and trying to pull it out of him by riling him up with taunts from time to time. i really feel bad now, because in the end He is an absolutely amazing Master and i couldn't find anyone better for me. (i just wish his "kindness" were a little more "harsh" if that makes sense...)