How did you get started online?

[ravenbounduptight]

How did i get started online? hmmmm... it's been so long i can't remember. i started off in yahell bdsm chat rooms back when they had those, that's what i did for a few years. Then i took a break from bdsm completely. When i came back i knew i had to start all over again and mostlikely online was the best place in my thinking. But yahell got rid of the bdsm rooms.

So i googled different sites and talked to some kinky contacts i still had their sn's with. i stumbled across this site first and i'm still here, woohoo. i enjoy the topics over here more and the people in general. my online chat friend told me about collarme and fetlfe. i tried collarme, and i'm sure my profile is still over there, but i didnt enjoy it. Too many flakes. i do however totally enjoy fetlife. it has more local events, not that i'm intersted in local events anymore because we all know pgh is a black hole as far as kink is involved.

So my tips for online are as follow (most of them are pet peeves i have, as well as most my friends have, and that i know will make one's life easier to an extent online).

1. don't give out your phone number (publicly post it), dont give out your real name, don't give out anything personal. The whole world can see it, you write it you own it, and you cant get rid of it before the damage is done.

2. Post a photo on your profile. It could be a horse's ass for all i care, it shows you can take the time to post something up that strikes your fancy and is an easier way for people to start a convesration with you and you with them, "oh that's a cool photo....."

3. WRITE ABOUT YOURSELF. filling out a fetish list does not count. Your list of festish is just a list of things you like doing, it doesnt tell us anything about yourself. It also relates back to 2,IF you can take the time to write something about yourself it shows me alot. i took the time to write and post photos, you can take the time to do the same.

4. READ. . . do not go writting a submissive asking if you can be their submissive. i am a switch but i have no interst in owning a submissive/slave. . . i post that clearly, READ what the person you want to talk to is saying. it makes you look good. and if a person doesnt cyber, or anything else that they took the time to post they DONT do, please don't ask them to cyber/ect with you.

5.Do not post: i'm new, teach me, please. way too general. best suggestion: google is your FRIEND, use it. flip thru this site or fetlife and look at some terms people use. Fire play, knife play, breath play, impact play, bondage. . .. the list goes on forever (see the kinky list). read about those and figure out if your in general interested in learning more about that area of play. Then ask a question. That helps us to help you. "hey, i was thinking about knife play, but i wasn't exactly sure what it all included, could someone help me out and explain what they know about knife play?"

6. There are some dangerous people out there. . . in the detroit area some guy was killing submissive women. There are also some dangerous women out there men, so don't think just cause youre a guy youre safe. With the internet the same safety rules apply. IF you are looking to go from online to real life, remember: common sense should NOT go out the window just because something kinky is involved.

i shall stop there. . .it's past my bed time and i'm sure everyone is going: raven, stop fucking bitching already. . . i think i'll go read Oz's post about rough fucking for my bed time story today.

~j~

[muskrat3o3]

there was no one that i new in real life that wated to dominate me so i looked on line and strated reading the stories on here and those made me want to find a online femdom the search is still on.