How much control do you give up?

[Ozme52]

Is there such a thing as giving up too much control?

To my mind, the answer is yes. But that's a personal preference. Even if one is my absolute slave, I don't want to be micromanaging you, I want you to have interests that don't require my oversight and perhaps not even my tacit approval. I expect you to reveal what I ask you to reveal to me, honestly and openly. But there are somethings that won't hurt me for not knowing them.

Should they have your email and website subscription passwords?

That goes directly to the nature of your relationship with your master. If he asks and you are comfortable, sure. But if he doesn't ask, why offer? If you're not comfortable, (to be answered more later,) why should you not be able to have boundaries, even within the limits of a lifestyle slave. Perhaps if one is a chattel slave, the answer is different, but aren't true property, to be sold or disposed of without a say...

Should safe words not be used eventually?

Absolutely not. Safewords are also about safety. Not just limits. A master should want to know when his slave is inadvertantly endangered.

Should hard limits be pushed or ignored eventually?

Pushed? Yes. Ignored? Never. Trusting him to not violate your limits is the same as having the limit. So why quibble over the semantics?

Should your Dom/me get to choose your sexual orientation?

If you've said you have a preference but are flexible, then sure. If you are not flexible, we're talking about limits again. Should you be pushed to find out whether something is possible, yes albeit carefully, but if you are adamently heterosexual or adamently homosexual, then we're right back to the limits discussion.

Once the collar is on do you give up everything or are there still things that should be left private to the slave?

I think my position is clear, slaves should be allowed some privacy.

When the world reverts and allow chattel slaves and real ownership, ask me again. Until then, the line between slave and devoted submissive is a fine line and it's blurry as to exactly where it lies.