Quote Originally Posted by Carpe Coma View Post
If I was a therapist working with someone who has had past abuse, I would be concerned about their involvement. Let's be honest, many aspects of BDSM can run very close to abuse and some will try to hide behind it as an excuse for abuse. Like anything, it can be healthy and unhealthy. If you want her to see it in a good light, be transparent. Don't try to sugarcoat your relationship, don't get riled up and defensive, and try to give her as neutral a view as possible. The more you try to "convince" her that it is good for you, the more she is going to be concerned.

a very sensible and pragmatic approach. i would add to that by saying you need to acknowledge to the therapist where there are genuine risks of harm, and discussing how you intend to mitigate them; for instance by recognising signs of "wannabe Doms", or by being cautious and clear about your limits with a trusted partner who knows (and understands) enough about your abuse to avoid getting too close to danger points.