A Request for Guidance

[unmastered]

Very very very well said oh great dom that is Oz, I couldnt say it better Sir.

The only thing I might add, is "read" the posts in these forums, dom/sub/switch etc, the multitude of differeing perspectives can garner you some valued wisdom.

I also reccomend seeking out experienced submissives on line that are willing to roleplay eaither directly, or indirectly with you or discuss D/s phycology from the submissive perspective. I have found that to be a very safe way for a sub or dom to practice the inheirent "therory" of D/s that lack a partner in real life.

Of course the best way to go about that in chat isnt to go whisper crazy, you wont get anything substantial from such activities. Patience and honesty go a long way.

Some experienced submissives (like myself and many others) are more than willing to lend a hand in the training of a dominant, after all if he works out to become a good dom, she has done a great service to one of her sisters of the collar.

The real key is not only in mastering your own mind, but hers as well.

Beautifully Said

[JimmyJump]

I think that a lot of the fear of doing things 'wrong' comes from the fact that usually, people want to take on a role and (literally) act according to what they think that role entices.

Well, I'm not an experienced DOM, but I never act. I'm me. Always.

So, my little addition to the subject is: in the first place and foremost, be yourself. Don't put up an act, especially if you're not sure to be able to carry the role through to the end...


JJ

[MISTRESS H]

All that has been answered is good advice from those that know, or at least think they know. Being a non sadist, I can give you adivce in one word, that applies to anything or any method that you might think of or want to apply to your relationship, and that one word, is PATIENCE. You have to have patience when dealing with a sub/slave in any actions. Your descisions on punishments have to deal with the serverity of the infractions. Some might warrent server punishments, while others may not. Your satisfaction comes from the idea that you rule, and your words are to be obeyed. Now I condesnse this by saying that the word were ones that could be obeyed, one needs to give a sub/slave an out, something that can be achieved without compromising both positions. With this said, I hope that you find a way that works for you, since the ways of others, are not always compatible with what YOU want out of the relationship.

[MasterNox]

I think that a lot of the fear of doing things 'wrong' comes from the fact that usually, people want to take on a role and (literally) act according to what they think that role entices.

Well, I'm not an experienced DOM, but I never act. I'm me. Always.

So, my little addition to the subject is: in the first place and foremost, be yourself. Don't put up an act, especially if you're not sure to be able to carry the role through to the end...


JJ

I've realized recently that I have been trying to act to fit a role and not allowing the role of Master and DOM fit to who I am as an individual. It goes without saying that it was very hard and stressful to keep this up.

I'll take your advice and act as I feel and not as I "should".