I haven't used the personals here, but I have used a BDSM dating site. The kind of message you're referring to gets deleted from my inbox with no response. I went through the trouble to fill out a profile in great detail. Most of the "doms" sending those messages have NOTHING on theirs, and they can't even be bothered to write themselves a decent introduction letter? PUH-LEEZE! I'm not adding them to my Yahoo! or any other ridiculous thing they suggest I should do. I don't want to waste my time talking to someone I know absolutely nothing about whilst I have a full page of information for their viewing pleasure. Also, until we have actually met in person and decided to try a relationship, I don't have to jump through any hoops. I don't have to prove a damn thing.

I don't contact doms because I'm kinda old fashioned. I like the man to make the first move. It puts him in control. I just wish the ones who actually made it to a phone call and tried to set up a date had a freakin' clue! I don't care where we meet for lunch, coffee, or dinner as long as it's in a public place. If you're going to ask for a date, have a plan already in mind. I hate having the ball constantly thrown back in my court.