Quote Originally Posted by jeanne View Post
So my question is - how important is clarity to you? When you are entering into a relationship that you hope will be more than just 'play partners', do you prefer full disclosure of other relationships and such up front, or would you rather be kept in the dark? This is not a matter, for me, of wanting to 'replace' another submissive - I was very clear about my own status of being owned by Milord - it was simply a matter of wanting to have all the pertinent information while making my decision to submit to this person.
Part of a relationship is getting to know the person you're in the relationship with. This doesn't (and can't) happen immediately, and it can't all happen before you decide to enter into said relationship. It's a process that is ongoing, no matter how committed you are. The question is, I suppose, how much do you need to know to start out with?

Based on your post, this seems to be an issue of full disclosure in regard to other relationships. In my case, yes, I prefer to know about others involved and where we all stand in relation to each other. I'm perfectly okay with a Dom saying, "this isn't something I want to go into detail on right now," because that gives me the opportunity to respond with, "okay, then I'm not ready to be involved very deeply right now." At least that's still honest on both sides. What I'm saying is that I am okay with information being revealed slowly and cautiously, or even being told it's none of my business, but I am not okay with being lied to.