Well to start my response to this I first have to admit that I support men's movements in this country and am against a great deal of feminist ideology and have been a sometimes outspoken voice against NOW. I'm also a huge fan of Christina Hoff. And no none of it is because I think women are inferior to men in anyway.

I have been having trouble finding the article i read in print years ago about NOW's views on bdsm however they were completely against it (only if the woman was submissive). There was an outcry from the lesbian community and NOW changed their view to that it was wrong for women to submit to men. They could however submit to women and men could of course submit to women.

I'm outlining this because of the ridiculous nature of this organization. (Though it is the most outspoken feminist group probably in the world. I also completely understand it's not the only and that a lot of people are jumping ship). The movement was about choices and still should be. It was about the choice to go to work OR stay home. That has been taken out of it a lot.

Specifically to Tleanne5664, the movement doesn't dictate what you do in your own bedroom or your own life. There are those who would want you to feel bad about *your choice* but always remember it's yours to make. There are also those who would believe that the movement does dictate what goes on in your relationships, as if you aren't strong enough to make those choices yourself. You are obviously very strong to want to live in both worlds and I admire that. As someone who often does the same thing I can only say that sometimes you have to be the middle ground yourself. You can only find it in you.