I met T here on the site, in the chatroom to be precise. O/l? Sorta-- that's where we initially were introduced... but I only chatted w/Him in the room originally because there was a r/l meet plan (under other auspices... LONG story for another day lol), and the rest, as they say, is history. We now are happy, together & just celebrated my 3 yr collaring anniversary.

R/l meets are sometimes easier then o/l because you get that initial "is it going to work" done with in the first few minutes of talking with someone. That being said, r/l sometimes also puts up more obstacles to finding people w/matching kink & lifestyle theories, so it can be a far more tedious process. In r/l, your sample size for a partner is also probably smaller initially (based on geography), whereas o/l gives you a wider breadth.

If you are looking for a r/l match, I would recommend your local munch or dungeon (which usually requires attending a munch or meeting first)... and if you don't click w/that group, keep hunting...

Other sites like collarme.com, alt.com are more geared towards personals then our site is-- so that is why they give off a different "vibe." They are more like looking through the classifieds, whereas we are more like reading through the rest of the newspaper... different techniques, different purposes. The "classifieds" sites do have great people that are looking for matches--normal, non-scary people You just have to dig for them... and it can be frustrating & a lot of work.

A cautionary note: sometimes that first r/l meet with an o/l potential match is disasterous because you both have fantasies that aren't going to be reflected in reality... keep your expectations under control & reasonable, and you should be good to go

Good luck!