Quote Originally Posted by shayna View Post
Jsyk, you didnt upset me or hurt my feelings. I am with someone now, who i met from the library, we started as best friends. We talk about other things other then D/s and s&m. Our relationship does not revole around Bdsm in the slighest. Do we talk about it? Yes. Are we D/s? When needed, as in we dont go out the house shoving it in others faces' lol. We are like a normal couple, we talk about other things then D/s, or bdsm. I am sorry you were called out in front of the people you wanted to hide it form the most, that can always be hard. But i do kinda of agree that most o/l relationship that grow into r/l relationship could revolve around just D/s, but for me and him its different. like i said before we are normal, we do normal things lol. I also know plenty of people from this library that have gone from o/l to r/l that are in normal healthy relationships where there whole relationship isnt tetering on D/s.

I'm very happy that your relationship sounds very solid and diverse! To be honest, this particular website has an exceptionally different "feel" to it that other sites I have frequented. Thus I have reason to think that perhaps your relationship may not even be the exception to the rule- for ppl who meet here. There are a few sites though (not wanting to name names here) where the relationships have a huge, copious failure rate. As I said though, perhaps the ratio is better here due to the very nature of this site being so different from others. Maybe because it is a site built around literature, writing, communication and linguistics, as opposed to sites that are built around personal ads and just happen to have forums. I don't know... anyway, thank you for your reply!