In real life its a lot harder, you have to put yourself out there, and its a 50 50 shot. Believe me its happened to me before, where i had a boyfriend ( i actually still work with him *Sighs*) and i had to tell him, 'look i want you to tie me up, spank me and call me a dirty slut" he didnt take it to lightly.. I didnt say it in that way but that was what i was thinking lol. I was embaressed becuase he thought i was weird, and or strange. So i broke up with him a few months later becuase he didnt take heed to my advice. I cannot have a vanilla relationship anymore, it just doesnst work. *shrugs* that god for internet!