Quote Originally Posted by Laila View Post
Hm... good point. On the other hand, I think that gender is somehow more important for the dominant part. I might be imagining this but I always feel like there is a big difference between Doms and Dommes - or rather they use their respective sexuality so strongly...

For submissives it doesn't seem to matter that much. I mean some female slaves actually shave their heads, male slaves are made to cross-dress etc. I mean I love being a woman and I feel very feminine as a slave but... I feel like my submissiveness trumps my femininity somehow.
Plus, when it is my femininity that my Master wants to touch, when he flirts with me, when he praises me or wants to show me his love, he calls me his rose, which I find very feminine. When he addresses me as his slave, I am his slave first, not girly or flirty...

So maybe the very gender neutral terms for submissives are there for a reason.
I agree with you whole heartedly Laila about a submissives gender not necessarily being important and therefore not having a name but,
as I have switched on and off I've noticed that how I enjoy being the submissive is quite different from how women I have dominated.
I normally enjoy humiliation while more women preferred the bondage or masichistic side of things.
Maybe it's just me and that is the way I enjoy bdsm or femdom, but it is a trait I've picked up on.

I aggree