welcome Jade

Quote Originally Posted by Little Man View Post
You Submission is not all about sitting at your computer waiting for the orders to come. should have a perfectly normal relationship, chat and laugh. Cry too at times.
thanks Little Man.. i have had several o/l Dommes in the last year some good and others not so much.. but one other thing is they were all different from one another as far as how they looked at it and there need in a sub.. a few were fakes, one was not stable, so getting to know each other is very important! as it having "fun" but it can also be very emotionally draining to pour your heart out day after day over the internet, feeling develop that do not always end up the way you dream them.also it has turned out to just as intense as r/l for me and least on an emotional level, you type things and thoughts and feeling to each other every time that you would not necessarily share with a person sitting right beside you. you can build up an image of them in your mind that doesn't always transfer over to real life if you ever do meet this Dom/me that you have spent so much time and emotion on, so friendship first, then if it don't work then at least your still friends.

Keep in mind that the first person you meet for an o/l or even the 4th person wont necessarily be for You, "Have Fun" would be my biggest advice if its not fun don't waist your time.. also make some other friends here on the forum has helped me too and in chat.
sorry i i bounced around a bit but i have been struggling with the same questions as you for a while now.
good luck, have fun, and protect yourself from the fakes