Quote Originally Posted by rachel06 View Post
Do you find that what excites you changes according to your partner?

[...] how can you tell what YOU want, and not what you want to want because it would please him? How can you tell what's pushing limits and expanding horizons, and what's a sick willingness to go along with anything?

I wish I could ask this more clearly. It has been bothering me ever since I found that the act of acquiescing in something that I had previously found unappealing was itself very exciting.
a good Dom will never push you at all, rather, take his cues from you and lead you down the darkened steps, sometimes taking little detours that, while unexpected, prove out to be extremely exciting. he will also determine what your likes/dislikes are, fears, what you are willing/not willing to do beforehand by asking questions, either in the form of a questionaire or just by asking you. then he will tell you what he likes and see if you are agreeable to it or willing to experiment. that is the wonder and joy of the exchange of power, and a very special kind of love that people not privileged to it can ever hope to find.

p.s. my desires are pretty consistent and don't change, but if i happen to be introduced to something new, it will be added to my mental toybox and brought out depending on His mood or wishes. i an happy to do anything, as it is my complete pleasure to please Him.