In such a case you might wanna find someone that can, given he can handle that. I understand this. I am in a similar relationship. We now have a girlfriend, for many reasons. My primary is mostly lesbian, malea have been the cause of all the PTSD. Second she has limits to what she is willing to do and my second has very little limits. Mind you a triad relationship is hard, especially with so many differences. Do not settle, find the right person. This is the only advice I can give...and good luck.
"Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well."
:Voltaire AKA Francis Marie Arouet
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