I suppose I shouldn't be that conclusive about all men. After all I have run into some nice ones, both young and old. But (nice as they are) they still end up bringing up BDSM within the first 3 sentences even though they don't know me. And, after we find out that we are not compatible, they just leave. As if friendship is out of the question. Even if we get along, if they find out that we could go no further than friendly conversation, then they wish me luck and move on.