You are on an adult site where the main focus is alternative lifestyles and kinky sex. I have to assume that your are an adult. Why would you bother coming here if the topics discussed, either in public or in private, offend your delicate sensibilities? You used going to a bar as an example. Guess what? If you go to a bar not looking to get laid, you still go with the understanding that you may, in fact, receive undesirable attention. Does it keep you from going? Do you complain to all the other patrons of the bar about how all you want to do is get drunk but have to put up with being hit on in the process? PUH-LEEZE!