I agree that finding out if you're compatible in roles is very important. If I'm sub and the male is sub that changes the conversation. Now we're no longer talking as potential playmates, life partners, etc. but as friends with a common interest and experiences.

I don't see why it should end the conversation either way just because that came first, rather it sets the footing for the conversation. By just clicking someone off perhaps you're losing a friend OR a potential playmate at the least.

What annoys me (and the ones I click off with impatience) are the ones that find you DO have compatible interests and roles and move immediately to "now tell me something erotic so I can get off." Well perhaps not exactly that plainly but it comes through loud and clear anyway.

To me those are the real users and losers we all could live without.