Quote Originally Posted by Daumon View Post
Personally, If someone opens with boring, pointless or offensive remoraks then be thankful that they make your job easier. They show you quickly they are not the sort of person you are looking for. their lack of interest save you they time of finding out they are bad matches. Yes its annoying and frsutrationg to meet people who treat you like that. better to have them remove themselves from your selection list all by themselves. It makes it easier to spot the ones that take the time, listen and ask the right questions.
I wanted to quote this part of Daumon's reply because I agree with it 100%. I would also add that you have an additional option to try before you put someone on your mental ignore list: redirecting the conversation.

So you're in the chatroom, and you want to meet people to establish a connection - but your first interest is their personality and their first interest is your sexuality. Okay, fine. Run with it:

GUY IN CHAT: hi do you like being tied up and being caned?
BAMBINA: Hi Random Dom. I like to get to know people a bit before jumping right into sex talk. Where are you from?

How he responds will tell you what you need to know - i.e. is he contacting you because he wants to know about YOU, or is he contacting you because you're female and in the chatroom. It might take a few messages back and forth, but you should be able to tell fairly quickly where he's coming from, and THEN you can make the calm, non-angry decision on whether to keep chatting or end the conversation.