i have gotten annoyed at this a couple of times myself...it just seems to me that, if ten minutes into the convo, they know whether or not we have something in common, and they still only seem interested in instant gratification, then they are not for me. i completely understand that it is a huge waste of time if the dom and i are not at all compatible in our likes and dislikes, however, after that preliminary part of the convo is over i like to see a dom ask me about myself and what i enjoy doing outside of BDSM. sex and BDSM are personal for me, and i just am not able to do either with just any random person. i want to know something about the man behind the screen name and i like to get to know him a bit first, it makes me feel more comfortable. not that i am knocking anyone who is looking for "instant gratification", to each their own in my opinion. that is how they are wired, and i am wired a bit differently is all... usually if i am not interested and i say so, they will move on...

Whisperz