i personaly am not one of those who ask about kinks right away nor do i realy talk about them at all here if im honest. but their are lots of very nice very normal people who come here to "get off" and I say good luck to them. they have every right to do that. just like you have every right to come here and have a normal conversation. I'm sure it "irks" them that you pigeon hole them all as perverts or genraly look down on them. perhaps next time you could just tell them your not interested. im sure then they would be very respectful and understand totaly. try it.