sometimes blunt and to the point does sound evil, or just harsh, but it is effectifve, and it's true, men are task oriented. and i've had a friend who would just say to a girl, lets go have sex, and he would walk out with her, used to tick me off that he made it look that easy, so lets try this, hi my name is robert, i'm your possible dom for the evening, you look absolutely georgous this evening, mixed drink? how do you like it? where did you say you were from? what sports do you prefer, and how well are your teams doing, outside of bdsm what do you like? ... ... As a guy i'm pretty much down to earth, i know everyone has feelings and the whole this is who i am, but sometimes i like to be just to the point which sometimes just comes out so arrogant to people and thats just not me at all. i'm not really good with starting a conversation face to face and lord knows i've mande a fool of my self plenty of times, but once people get to know me, they know most of how i say things is just sometimes tken wrong and look behind the tone to get to what was actually said. so i feel your pain in that aspect.