It was a question desert Dom. I don't need you to judge me for it please.

sadie, that makes sense. I like your response (as well as a few others). I suppose it wouldn't be right to dismiss a man for bringing up BDSM or sex in the first minute. I guess there is technically nothing wrong with it. After all, it is important. Plus (as someone told me in a PM) it's a good way to break the ice because it's the one topic you know you'll have in common with the other person. DesertDom, it may be BDSM site but that doesn't mean that taking certain courtesies when talking to someone automatically go out the window. I don't care if I'm at a strip club. I want a man to take a genuine interest in ME. Not in my crotch, butt, or mouth.