Quote Originally Posted by blythespirit View Post
Obviously, there are no easy answers for you and no help to be had. Search your soul and do what's right for both you and your wife.
The only thing I would add here is that what is best for you is not always what is right for the both of you. If you stay married, can you avoid the resentment that will build over the years? Although many have 'sucked it up' for the greater good, it always comes at a price.

I am going to assume that many here have experienced this dilemma, and some have even had to make the decision to divorce. It may seem like a selfish act, but we are all responsible for our own happiness. I would like to hear more about how people have moved through this and their own stories regarding staying in a marriage without BDSM or splitting in order to be true to their own selves. Perhaps that is another thread entirely.