Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a fat person? i personally am not repelled by a person who is overweight at all. i am more attracted to their confidence level, their personality, if i feel safe with them, their strength of mind and spirit, if they are generous and loving...all these things and more add up to whether i find them physically attractive or not. At first glance i may or may not be attracted to someone who is overweight but it has to do with how they carry themselves, not with their weight.

Are you physically attracted to or repelled by a thin person? Same answer as above, though when intimate, i do tend to like a little meat on the Mans bones. i like hugs and i like to "feel" well hugged, not saying a thin person doesn't give good hugs but i don't like to get bruised when being hugged either.

What body type attracts you most? If i had my way, stocky/muscular, any height above my own, however if i love the person, their body becomes my ideal as love tends to bring perfection to my eyes.

How have your own body issues affected your love/sex life? my body issues do not affect my love life at all. However, being a bit self conscious of my body, it has affected my sex life some. i tend to shy away from having the lights on or being in the open. i'm not an exhibitionist to begin with and am very shy as well but i think i would be less inhibited if i were to see in the mirror what i envision in my head.

What i have come to realize (just by answering these questions really) is that weight is just a small factor in the scheme of things. And it really should have no part in the lifestyle as it is changeable and offers a Dominant many opportunities to "be" Dominant and at the same time assisting the submissive to develop a good sense of health and body image, trust and self esteem etc. Attraction comes in many forms and most have nothing to do with a persons weight. So why do we sometimes feel that THAT is the one thing that may prevent us from becoming everything we wish to become?

Very few people i know are at their ideal weight. i am working towards mine, for my own confidence, my own health. It's not easy and it has taken me years to find a method that will work and be healthy at the same time. i've finally found the right combo for me. Am i losing the weight because i thought there was something wrong with me? Yes, i wasn't as healthy as i could have been and it was hurting my confidence because i let it. So i decided to do something about it. For no one else, but for me. If i had a Dominant in my home to lead me and push me towards my goal it would be easier but through the years i've not been with a Dominant who wanted that kind of control of me. It wasn't a jazzy enough topic in our lives to warrant the strength or attention needed.

Should you lose weight for someone else ? No, should you allow someone to help you if they care about you? Yes