Perhaps if I had a team of Photoshop experts and airbrushers following me around 24/7 we could discuss approaching the avatar...lol
But you are correct in suggesting that attitude etc. overrides what our bodies may or may not look like. There is a significant difference to looking beautiful and being beautiful. My preference is a nice balance between the two. There's no way I would walk out on J if he put on a few pounds, I love who he is far too much for that. However, I am very pleased and more than a little turned on when he comes back from running or working out.
It's normal and healthy to love and appreciate both the physical and the mental aspects of our partners.