Im going to chim in here.
I wasnt big all my life, i started to struggle with my weight when i was about 19. Ill be 24 in a few weeks. The weight struggle came from being teased about how "big" i was. Now let me give you an example of what i look like. I have big boobs *proud*, im 5'4ish, i have nice toned legs, and very skinny arms, so a lot of people would mistake my big boobs for being fat. It happened to me a lot. I mean A LOT.
I was in a bad relationship that left me feeling ugly and fat. I left that life and traded it for a new one, in a new city, with new people. *best desicion i ever made* With this change came a want to change the way i looked. I cut all my hair off, changed my style of clothing, and started to diet. *i was around 200 lbs at that point, and this was only back in January 08* Actually my work started the diet. It was a idea brought on by my bosses drive to lose weight. He made the "Chub club" 16 weeks, 5 dollars a week, lose 10% body weight, you win the money at the end, if 13 people did it the pot would be 1040, only one person lost 10% that one person would get all the money, more then one person wins, divey it up. I joined and won. I lost way more then my ten percent. I went from 200 lbs to 165. In 16 weeks. I cut out almost all carbs, i count calories, cut what i would normally eat in half, dont eat when im not hungry, work out twice a day..some people think im obesssed i just think its s drive to want to look and feel better.
Yes i lost a lot of weight but with that came more teasing, since i have big boobs *which are shrinking* people say i look like a steleton with boobs, or that i will just topple over, or that i am turning to dust. My best friend even calls me Ski N. AndBones, and or skeletor, or Bones. Not funny, and not cool. Hurts my feelings actually. So i guess u cant win if u are big or skinny. Most of the people that say theses are..big.
I hate the word fat, i really do. I think thats a cut down and makes the other person feel horrible. I never liked being called fat, so i wouldnt say it to someone else.
When I like someone, friendship or relationship, i like them for there mind, Like what Grapes said. Beaty fades the mind is ... til forever, (or until you die). I am not a shallow person. Ive been with big guys, small skinny guys, buff guys, medium guys, huge guys, and one skinny mini girl, they all turned me on in different ways. I am not turned off of bigger people, not one bit. I am not with someone, or someones friend bc they are skinny.
Am repelled by someone who is skinny, Not at all! Read above.
just my two cents.
correction: its not a diet i am on, its a lifestyle change.