oh, i had never actually thought about that, i had always dismissed the thought as being 'normal' *smiles*. I don't think i have never had an encounter where things got too out of hand or out of logic, if you will, for me to say 'no' or not enjoy myself. Even things I wasn't that keen on doing [i wouldn't even call them a soft limit, just something i needed a bit more persuasion to actually do] i found myself enjoying because i was doing them. I think i got off more on the fact that i did it because it was required and the other person was happy. Probably it's what your mind focuses on at the time, i guess.
If the choices of things you have to think from are
a) i do it because He/She says so
b) i don't like it i don't like it i don't like it
c) i hate it and i want it to stop or
d) hm, this ain't so bad now is it?
you focus on one of the four that does help you along and works with your sexuality.

*ponders* does it make sense?