dominant appeal

[Laila]

Its a stupid theory - in fact it makes me angry. Its why I half actually really dislike the film secretary because it makes it look like submissives are sad pitiful creatures who want a Dom because they need him to take care of their lives.

Sure I have my insecurities - mostly physical, but generally I am self-sufficient, strong, intelligent. In my normal life I'm more a leader than a follower.

And I am not attracted to Doms in general - but the ones I do feel attracted to are usually confident in themselves without taking themselves not too seriously. I like it when I can look up to a man - in character, intelligence, maturity etc. A man has to make me want to submit to him by earning it - it has nothing to do with insecurity.