im not sure if its appropriate to post this here on someone elses thread, sorry Xadianx, and im really not trying to come across as some self proclaimed 'expert' but i just remember what it was like when i was searching around looking for info and genuine 'sensible' help not internet fantasy c**p! ...although i guess it's fair that any of you could think that of me too lol...but i'll post anyway!

firstly the regular disclaimer
im not proclaiming myself to be an expert whatsoever this is based soley on my own experience and 'knowledge' of waxing, and is NOT intended as a firm guideline.

firstly it's important to remember it's usually considered edge play and treat it as such (people often tend to forget that) as it can be dangerous (you are playing with heat remember) if not used with caution. Otherwise what should be a wonderful experience could soon finish with third degree burns and an embarrassing trip to the local accident and emergency room.

But should any burns occur it is useful to be able to recognise the different forms of burns and be able to treat them immediately.
First degree burns are characterised by localised redness, use cold water and keep the burn covered with cool clean cloths, applying aloe-vera and or mineral oil can help soothe any discomfort.

Second-degree burns are recognised by signs of blistering. You should not burst the blisters simply keep them clean, do not apply any coverings or creams/lotion's.

Third degree burn's are the severest, you should always seek medical attention particularly if the burns cover a large area. Cover with a clean cloth (linen is best).

Candle wax can very quickly over heat and the Dominant should regularly check the temperature. A good way to do this is to experiment dripping a small quantity from different heights (about 16 inches) onto the back of the hand before carefully testing a small area of skin on the submissive.

The best temperature we have found is anything up to 130°F after plenty of experimenting I would not advise going above this. Hot wax quickly sets on the skin and retains its heat for quite some time. There are many different types of candle wax, the most readily available being: soy based, (soft) paraffin, (soft) and bee's wax (hard) which is not recommended as this heats very quickly and has a much higher temperature 150°F plus. Candles made from raw paraffin, are usually better for playing with, they are not as hard and do not reach as a high a temperature. Soy based candles have a slightly lower temperature range but can be expensive.

Avoid candles containing large quantity's of stearin this hardens the wax and raises the temperature considerably. The harder the wax the higher the boiling point.

As wax begins to melt it forms a pool around the top of the candle giving the wax time to cool slightly. On a small candle the melted wax builds up quickly and begins to drip much faster. So the smaller the diameter of the candle the less wax it can retain. Therefore thinner candle's such as the type used for birthday cakes are not suitable for play and from personal experience I would not recommend them,they can produce some very nasty burns!

Its fun experimenting with different coloured and scented candles but some of the additives oils, chemicals and natural ingredients used can cause rashes and allergic reactions. Again before experimenting it is best to test the wax on a small not too sensitive part of the body.

Playing with wax has endless possibility's just let your imagination take over. Try all parts of the body,the lower back, neck and under arms are very erogenous zones as well as the more obvious areas.

Be careful of any body jewellery...metal burns! Never go above the neck, melted wax splashes and could very easily damage the eyes. A good way to start, for first timers especially, is dripping; if a sub is nervous or tense try letting a little pool of wax cool slightly and experiment feel the texture of the wax dip a finger in, allow the wax to set on the fingertip. Gradually build up take a little more wax and gently smooth onto the back of the hand and explore the different sensations on different areas of the body.

It can take a couple of times before you really appreciate how the wax itself actually feels.Which when you're not used to it can, if not done carefully be a little or even a lot painful and uncomfortable. There are two forms of discomfort and pain, the good kind and the bad.Give me the good any time!

Most play creates a certain mental state of being as well as the physical aspects and waxing is not an exception. To begin with its generally the bodily sensations that you tend to ''concentrate'' on and most people find actually concentrating on how it affects them psychologically (not as easy as it sounds) makes a huge difference to the experience including the physical ones.

I personally love being waxed when wearing a blindfold, waiting for that first drip not knowing where its going to land or when when Icehawk is in the mood for teasing! The whole of my body becomes more sensitive my mindset alters and I can almost feel the wax on my skin before its even touched me especially if he brings the candle close so I can feel the heat from the flame.

Most people find it often gets to the stage where they can no longer distinguish between hot or cold.Although an unexpected splash of cold water quickly solves that!A weird but pleasant sensation.

Waxing can be very intense and will generally have the sub rolling around in ecstacy unless of course they're restrained, (another fun way to play) which is very frustrating at times! A Dominant will usually have plenty of fun watching the submissive writhing, squirming and jumping around.

If you are feeling artistic a subs body makes a great canvas for wax paintings. Again use your imagination, which brushes to use, different colours you may like. Try different patterns and textures.Test the temperature with a thermometer keeping in mind you will be covering a much larger area and applying a thicker coating of wax.

The relaxation stimulation and warmth of the wax being applied will often cause a bottom to drift into 'sub space'. Be creative and keep a camera handy its nice to have a souvenir of your 'work'.You can also make some great moulds even a full body cast if you wanted to! Pour a large amount of wax (cooler than you would use for dripping), using a ladle or pan usually works best, making sure to fully cover the intended area, as always regularly check the temperature.

If the submissive has a tendency to jump around now could be a good time to bring the restraints out.Let the wax cool and set firmly before slowly and carefully peeling away from the skin.
A very well respected Domme taught me this one For those who enjoy playing with cold objects a male sub can also be used to make a dildo, form a solid cast of his genitals once removed and fully cooled fill with water and place in the freezer.
One final tip: in particular body parts be sure to shave any body hair!