Perhaps it seems like the majority of subs on the site are submitting without being forced due to the fact that they have already gone through that aspect of the dance with their particular Master or Mistress. Many of us have also been around here enough that we have made friends with and are also respectful of other Dom/mes we determine we like and click with.
I myself am a boundary tester, willful, and dominant in my day to day. My submission is not made up of a natural need to be at anyone's feet, but out of a deep need to find equals and to find those I can respect. That respect is simply not an automatic.
Trust me, you're not alone. We'll see you around the forums.![]()