Infidelity and BDSM

[IAmCanadian]

And let's be clear about her use of the language. She's not making any consideration for any form of infidelity. Permission granted or not, open relationship or not, poly or not.

I mean...this just isn't true. She obviously means "cheating without permission", a true act of betrayal. Infidelity with no reason behind it besides feeding sexual urges. Considerations are implicit if you just look at the intent.

You're way off base here. Not sure how else to say it. I am baffled by your response.

Sorry brother but if you go back and read it again... she's calling out anyone who lives differently.

This actually couldn't be any less true. It's like a contest was held to see who could misunderstand her statement the most, and you really needed the prize money. Let me quote from her post:

If you live in a Vanilla relationship and you long for one that deals with BDSM then you have some decisions to make.

Don't be dishonest and unfaithful to your spouse because of YOUR need for something different.

What part of the above makes you believe that she is condemning polyamorous relationships, open relationships, or just plain swinging? The only topic explicitly addressed by her post was dishonesty in a conventional marriage. Even when talking more generally, she uses phrases like dishonest and unfaithful. How could those words be a condemnation of polyamory or open relationships, wherein the secondary sex partners are agreed-upon and there is no deception?

Just a ridiculous overreaction.

- FS