Quote Originally Posted by yummysubmummy View Post
I'm very new at this lifestyle but I must have missed the day when they gave out the manuals on how to be the best submissive. It seems that there is possibly a lot of (behind the scenes) competition amongst subs to determine who is the 'best' submissive. I find this concept bizarre; to me it is as ludicrous as my vanilla friends having a secret competition on who is the 'best' heterosexual. (Sorry can't think of a more suitable simile)

Surely all submissives can find a safe haven in this lifestyle? I can understand that the world at large may not accept/condone the concept of total submission but I wouldn't have imagined there would be many more places more open-minded than where we all are today. Of course, I speak from a general point of view; I am well aware that in all walks of life there is the occasional t*rd that graces the sidewalk - we just need to learn to step around those!
When they were giving out the manuals at the lifestyle fair, I think I must've been in the really, really long line to get a spanking. There is a lot of competition, and it's not that bizarre. It happens every day in vanilla life, i.e. best dressed, best house, best car, best kid, best job, etc. In the lifestyle, it tends to be more along the lines of most submissive, heaviest player, most toys, best clothes, etc. As far as being open minded, that's another misconception. Edge players are judged by SSC players as being unsafe, and SSC players are judged to be too soft. There are cliques in forums and in dungeons. There are certain fetishes no one wants to talk about. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but people are no different here than they are anywhere else once you get past the kink factor.