Quote Originally Posted by Soaul View Post
Paradoxically, what we all have in common is that we are each unique! Therefore, we deserve to be treated as unique.

Too often 'cookie cutter' protocols are used to treat submissive/slaves. This is OK in the training and consideration phase but once a slave the Master should know enough about his/her slave to know what is the slave needs and what limits need to be pushed. Yet, the slave doesn't know either; so there is exploration and pushing of limits is the rule. This is where safe words play a role--at least in the early stages.

Open communication and honest feedback is keep to maintaining any relationship...including a D/s and M/s ones. You are a doormat if that is what you want/need. Ironically, a Master not treating like a doormat when it is what you want/need is abuse.

So, the answer to your post is complicated by the uniqueness of the Master/Dom and the slave/sub. Perfect matching is impossible but the continuous effort is to match control with needs.
you are right Sir Soaul i need to be dominated to the point to i still have say wen it comes to my house and kids. but at the same time i also need to be owned when need/want be and not when have to be.