Dirty Words

[IAmCanadian]

Great post, Polaris.

This in particular struck me:

"I am all stressed out at times about how to manage my life so that it will fit conveniently into the drawer labeled "things you need to have as a woman to be happy or at least content".

I have long been a believer in the idea that a woman's life can be made more enjoyable with a reduction in complexity. While this is rooted in my own sadistic sexual kinks, I think it has practical relationship applications as well.

Picking up some of the slack for a slave, caring for her and directing her, allowing her life to become less complex but no less enjoyable, is something I enjoy very much.

It also ties in with humiliation play for me. As you point out in your opening paragraph, people equate complexity with worth. Of course it isn't true that her giving up any of her complexity makes her any less valuable- but that doesn't mean she and I can't pretend it does for an hour or so each day ^_^.

And as for Flaming_Redhead's original post:

Why are those who are willing to do anything to please their master regarded as unhealthy and undesirable?

If this actually happens, it is a tragedy. A slave to whom total submission, dependance and obedience comes naturally is a rare and precious sort. A master who is willing to accept responsibility for such a submissive and make her a part of his life will find great reward if he is able to treat how her she needs to be treated.

Perhaps some Doms see it this way- the more self-sufficient the female, the greater their margin for error. With total submission, a Dom is essentially responsible for another life- and some people can't even keep a goldfish alive, so that can be a scary thought. I *do* want to be needed, though. The dependance of another on me, totally, would add great value to my own life, and make it twice over more worth living to the fullest. There's nothing wrong with that, and I don't find it unhealthy and undesirable at all.

- FS